Names are funny things, aren't they?
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bloodydemonicFacebook is making me cranky, it's insisting I use my 'proper' name, and not my nickname - which is the name everyone has known me by for most of my life. They even deactivated my account until I changed it! I had to provide proof that I'm a real person as well. Like, what the fuck?
My given name is Joanne. I don't like it, never have done. Does anyone actually like their name? I was Jo as a child but didn't really gel with it into my tweens and teens, I didn't want a 'boys name'. I tried 'Annie' out for one summer but that didn't fit. I started being called Joey about 15 years ago and it's stuck. I generally don't answer to anything else.
The only person who calls me Joanne is my mum when she's pissed off at me. And when she's really pissed off it's Joanne Rachel
Then there's my paternal grandmother who insists on using everyone's given name, so she always calls me Joanne. And my mum is called Anne but goes by her middle name Grace but grandma insists on calling her Anne. "If your mother wanted you to be called Joey, she would have named you Joey." *sigh* She makes me glad there's no-one, as far as I'm aware, in our family who's transexual or gender neutral because I don't know how she would cope with that.
But I digress. I'm always known as my nickname, essentially a shortened form of my given name. The same for Tally, who's full name is Talia.
And on the J/D discord server, we've been talking about that and there's a member who doesn't like their name being shortened, or being referred to by a term of endearment, which I completly respect. We all have the right to be addressed how we prefer but it's made me aware how much I shorten other people's names, often without their permission so I'm making a concerted effort not to do that. I'm aware I don't like being called a name that's not my preferred, so it's not right that I do it to other people. I respect people's preferred pronouns and have been trying to get into the habit of asking what they are, so I'm going to also ask this (except for my brother. He's always going to be Pip because it pisses him off, and as his little sister, that's my job in life! (I do feel I need to clarify that if he ever seriously asked me not to call him it, I wouldn't!))
My given name is Joanne. I don't like it, never have done. Does anyone actually like their name? I was Jo as a child but didn't really gel with it into my tweens and teens, I didn't want a 'boys name'. I tried 'Annie' out for one summer but that didn't fit. I started being called Joey about 15 years ago and it's stuck. I generally don't answer to anything else.
The only person who calls me Joanne is my mum when she's pissed off at me. And when she's really pissed off it's Joanne Rachel
Then there's my paternal grandmother who insists on using everyone's given name, so she always calls me Joanne. And my mum is called Anne but goes by her middle name Grace but grandma insists on calling her Anne. "If your mother wanted you to be called Joey, she would have named you Joey." *sigh* She makes me glad there's no-one, as far as I'm aware, in our family who's transexual or gender neutral because I don't know how she would cope with that.
But I digress. I'm always known as my nickname, essentially a shortened form of my given name. The same for Tally, who's full name is Talia.
And on the J/D discord server, we've been talking about that and there's a member who doesn't like their name being shortened, or being referred to by a term of endearment, which I completly respect. We all have the right to be addressed how we prefer but it's made me aware how much I shorten other people's names, often without their permission so I'm making a concerted effort not to do that. I'm aware I don't like being called a name that's not my preferred, so it's not right that I do it to other people. I respect people's preferred pronouns and have been trying to get into the habit of asking what they are, so I'm going to also ask this (except for my brother. He's always going to be Pip because it pisses him off, and as his little sister, that's my job in life! (I do feel I need to clarify that if he ever seriously asked me not to call him it, I wouldn't!))
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Date: 2020-09-08 12:04 pm (UTC)My real name (which I never use on here) is one that is regularly shortened, and most people called it use the shortened version. I much prefer the full name - after all, it's only two syllables.
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Date: 2020-09-09 05:10 am (UTC)That Facebook thing sounds weird. It shouldn't be so finicky about names, especially since the people that follow you obviously know you by that name and not your 'real' one. Stuff like that just confuses and annoys people, jeez.